The 3 Tenets that Help Men Sleep Better, Fight Less, & Laugh Again - & Live Life 78% Better
These core rules from Heroic Men are the gold that stays after the dross burns away.
What brings men back to life? Heroic Men holds up three things: Friendship with God. An authentic brotherhood. Handshake outreach.
Call them tenets, pillars, essentials, rules of the road. We didn’t invent this. We reverse-engineered it. We studied why certain ministries worked when others burned out. We watched what happened when men prayed daily, even five minutes in their truck before work. They all said the same three things mattered most.
I’ve watched men walk into these tenets carrying a private, sour kind of exhaustion, like they’ve been hauling a backpack full of rocks for ten years and forgot what it felt like to set it down. After a month, something changes fast. Their faces change. Their voices change. Their marriage changes. Their eyes stop scanning the room like they’re waiting for a threat.
Three patterns men have always known, but today kicked under the rug. So we built a program around them to train any man, anywhere. We then spent a year watching men try to argue with them. Then we watched the arguments collapse under the weight of relief.
Because relief is real. Relief looks like a man laughing in a church basement for the first time in months. Relief looks like a guy sitting in his truck after a meeting, hands on the steering wheel, breathing like he’s been underwater way too long. Relief looks like a man admitting, out loud, I don’t actually have friends, and then realizing he’s surrounded by brothers who heard his story and stayed.
We’ve watched men come in with their spiritual life reduced to emergency flares. Weddings. funerals. A random panic prayer in the driveway. Then they learn how to walk with God in the middle of a Tuesday, in the middle of traffic, in the middle of temptation, in the middle of a fight with their wife, in the middle of being misunderstood, in the middle of losing a job, in the middle of a diagnosis, in the middle of a sleepless night with a sick kid.
Men can live without a lot of things. We can live without comfort. We can live without praise. We can live without ease. Some of us take a bit of pride in that.
But men can’t live without a center.
And Christ has to be the center. As the goal of your life, and as the model you practice. That’s the only path that turns a man into a steady presence instead of a walking storm.
Men thrive when they serve a purpose. A purpose that calls for them to show up every day. A purpose that demands growth. A purpose that pushes them beyond the small prison of self.
I’m talking about concrete acts that cost time, ego, comfort, and convenience.
It looks like a group of men who decide they’re going to take turns bringing meals to the family whose kid is in the hospital. So one guy stops at the grocery store after work, tired, irritated, hungry, and he buys the ingredients anyway. He cooks anyway. He delivers anyway. He prays with the dad in the driveway anyway. Then he drives home feeling more alive than he felt all week.
It looks like men who take a Saturday morning and help a widow move furniture because her shoulder’s wrecked and she’s been living with a broken chair and a loose railing for months.
It looks like a man calling a younger guy from church and saying, come lift with me, come grab breakfast, come talk. I see you on the edge over there. I’ve lived on the edges. Come on in.
The model stays simple. When everything goes sideways, simple is what keeps you alive. It gets you through.
Christ stayed close to the Father. He gathered a small team. He healed, fed, defended, challenged, and withdrew to pray again. He chose his battles carefully. He never shrank from suffering, and he never let suffering define him.
That pattern is the future. Because it’s the blueprint left by the Perfect Man.
What Happens When You Restore These in Men
When these three things get restored, we’ve seen the changes come fast enough to scare people.
A man starts sleeping again because his conscience is getting cleaned up and he’s living in the light with brothers who keep him honest.
A man stops snapping at his wife because he has a place to process stress before it spills over.
A man feels temptation and instead of bargaining with it in his head for an hour, he texts his brother: I’m getting pulled. Pray and call me. Then the phone rings, and he’s not fighting alone any more.
When the lights turn on, the dark disappears, and you realize you’re freer than you realized. And that freedom is worth everything.
Everything.
Living these three tenets is the future of manhood.
That’s why it’s our focus for the upcoming year with you.
If you’re a man who’s been trying to white-knuckle holiness like it’s a solo sport, you have permission to put that crushing yoke down. There are brothers out here who will respond.
Friendship with God. Authentic brotherhood. Handshake outreach.
Bring these back, and men come back.